I have heard it said that betrayal is the hardest thing to recover from, and I am inclined to believe it. Whether it is a friend or relative, there is just nothing quite as painful as betrayal. Probably this is because it involves trust, broken trust.
If it is a one time occurrence, I believe recovery is possible; but when the person who breaks your trust is someone in your family, and the offense is on going, it is a lot more difficult. This is particularly true for children, who cannot control their environment. More than likely, they do not even understand what is happening. If the offense is repeated they often begin to doubt themselves and wonder what they are doing to cause the situation. The impact on a young life can last a lifetime.
I believe this is why the Lord said, “But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.” Matthew 18:6. There are degrees of offenses, it goes without saying, but emotional abuse can cause a lifetime of trouble and sometimes beyond.
I believe that God is merciful. He will use even the bad things that have happened to us as children to draw us to Himself. He will show us His tender mercies, and teach us to forgive even those who have broken our hearts. These are lessons that are so valuable in life, yet some people never learn how to forgive. It is a blessing to learn to forgive. Without forgiving others, we ourselves cannot be forgiven. (Matthew 6:14)
Of course this is not limited to children, we are all subject to betrayal at one time or another. Jesus Himself was betrayed. He is acquainted with all our grief, yet He is without sin. It is so wonderful to have a Savior, the spotless Lamb of God, who died for our sins so we could be forgiven. Just the thought of that makes it easier to forgive others.
We may never understand why someone has hurt us, especially if it was repeated over many years; but we can rest in the forgiveness of Jesus and the knowledge that the Day will come when there will not even be a recollection of the offenses. In that Day, I believe the Lord will help us to understand how he used the events of our lives to mold us into the people he wanted us to be. He didn’t make our offenders be like they were. They had free will, and they chose to be as they were; but the Lord made the best of the bad situations, and He was with us every step of the way. Nothing was hidden from His eyes.
Someday we will see Jesus face to face. There will be no more sorrow, no more tears; and by the way, He has all of our tears in a bottle. The Word says so. (I believe we each have our own tear bottle.) He knows why we shed each tear. In that day we will shed no more tears. We will just have joy. There will be no reason to cry. For eternity we will live in the joy of His presence, no sorrow, no pain, not even any painful memories.
In heaven everyone will be in the presence of Jesus, no anger, jealousy, or backbiting there. Everyone will love everyone else and be full of the Love of the Lord. Everyone will know everyone else. There is no loneliness there. For now we have trials and afflictions, but it is only for a short period of time.
This period of time is just a moment. Like the Word says, for the “momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison,” 2Corinthians 4:17.
An eternal weight of glory. Wow. He knows us. He saw it all, He felt our pain. He heard us forgive. He watched us grow.
We know Him now, but before long, we will be there! For eternity we will live in His presence, knowing His unfailing love, and seeing Him face to face. His Love is so amazing, and His is the one Love that will never betray us!